One comment about Valentine's day.

[merlinofchaos]

I partially agree with technocowboy, though he is more strenous about it than I am.

I know what it's like to be lonely and single. I do still remember. As such I will never tell you you can't be upset, unhappy, whiny, bitch, or mopey for being single. Seriously.

But, single and bitter people, it's not my fault. (Well, unless you're one specific person.) I will not feel guilty for your sake that I am not single. I can empathize. I can remember the unending trapped feeling. I can remember the thoughts that the loneliness will never end. I can remember wondering what's wrong with me. I can remember some of it very vividly; so vividly I still occasionally dream I'm alone, and wake up depressed about it. Those memories never go away, they just go into storage.

But there is no need to make me feel guilty for your sake. That's about where I draw the line. Not to say that my friends list has been full of valentine's day bitters this year, but they're out there. Mostly I ignore them -- I realize that the lonely don't want my empathy, and it's not worth the possible rebuke of trying. I also understand the desire to lash out. I've been guilty of it, in the past. And I was wrong to do it.

Comments

[marith.livejournal.com]

*deeply melodramatic sigh* I suppoooooose you're allowed to be happy abot your own life. :)

[rosecolette.livejournal.com]

VDay *bounce*. Love you!

[baronnocturna.livejournal.com]

And that is why I generally say nothing on the topic.

[xleste.livejournal.com]

Passion is one of those joyous elements that makes life worth living. Despite the overcommercialism of the day and my personal issues with romantic-stuff-makes-me-cringe-right-now, I am REALLY really happy for the people who have found a connection with another human being they want to celebrate and an excuse to celebrate it. :)